A lot of people find having their butt played with, spanked, massaged, or simply just given a little extra attention really exciting. According to Najjar, that space where the butt meets the thigh is also one hell of an erogenous zone worth experimenting with.
18. The perineum
Similar to asses (as in everyone has one), everyone has a perineum too. The perineum is that strip of skin between the anus and the genitals, and is home to the pudendal nerve, the main purpose of which is to carry sensations back and forth through the intricate network of all the other nerves down there. Basically, it’s something worth getting to know and thoroughly explore.
“It’s perfect for exploring,” says Daniel Saynt, founder of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a private members club hosting regular workshops and events safely exploring open love, kink, and sexuality. “Lick it, slap it, bite it, or massage it. Based on your partners’ tolerance, you can explore a lot of powerful sensations by exploring this erotic zone.” However you want to delve into this area, just be sure to communicate with your partner so it’s enjoyable for both of you.
19. The armpits
When you think about how to foreplay, you probably don’t think armpits. But if you can get past a little sweat, hair, and taboo, your armpits can be a surprising erogenous zone. Think about it this way: Your armpits are super sensitive. The same thing that makes them so ticklish can also make this spot a surprising turn-on.
Here’s how to explore: Have your partner take the tips of their fingers and gently brush your underarms. First, lightly go up and down before shifting to a brisk, circular motion, paying close attention to what elicits the best response. It’s playful, sure, but also seductive.
20. The crease of the thigh
When it comes to erogenous zones for men and women, it’s not just all about the obvious. A great blow job or fantastic cunnilingus involves more than just the genitals, according to McGowan. “Paying attention to the area around the penis and testicles helps build anticipation and arousal,” she says. “That little crease where the thigh meets the torso is a great place to work into your oral sex repertoire.”
21. The crook of your arm
“If you’ve ever had the crook of your arm stimulated—the inner portion where the humerus connects the radius/ulna—you’ll likely know how sensitive this area can be,” says Gigi Engle, certified sexologist, Promescent brand adviser, and author of All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. “The skin there is thin, leading to a more intense feeling.”
